By Dr. Margaret Paul
If you are waiting for a partner to come along to make you happy, you will probably remain stuck being unhappy. Discover the importance of making yourself happy now - and how to begin doing that - before meeting your partner.
Do you believe that you need a partner to be happy? My [...]
By Dr. Margaret Paul
Does the fear of failure stop you from doing what you really want to do? Discover how failure is a wonderful learning opportunity rather than an indication of your inadequacy.
Failure! What do you feel when you think about failure? Inadequate? Unworthy? Unlovable? It is so sad that you might have learned to [...]
by Tommy Yan
If you’ve ever watched little children you know they are always curious, seeking excitement, adventure and even fearless when it comes to escaping boredom. But something happens to them as they journey into adulthood that robs them their spontaneity. They become adults and settle into patterns of expected behaviors.
Which isn’t all bad—but it [...]
By Dr. Margaret Paul
We are a pleasure seeking society. Most of us spend our energy seeking pleasure and avoiding pain. We hope that by doing this, we will feel happy. Yet deep, abiding happiness and joy elude so many people.
There is a huge difference between happiness and pleasure. Pleasure is a momentary feeling that comes [...]
by Marci Shimoff
I once heard a revered sage speak. He took a question from a man dressed in a three-thousand-dollar suit, wearing classy shoes, and dripping with gold jewelry. The man asked, “What do I need to give up to experience true happiness and inner peace?”
The sage replied, “There’s good news and there’s bad news. [...]
by Marci Shimoff
To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness. —Robert Mueller, Former Assistant Secretary General to the United Nations
Forgiveness is one of the 21 core habits of unconditionally happy people I discovered through my research for my book, Happy for No Reason: 7 [...]
by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
What if there was one choice you could make that would change everything in your life for the better? Actually, there is. It’s the choice to move out of judgment and into compassion for yourself and others.
Compassion is defined as a deep caring for the pain of others, often accompanied by [...]
by Tommy Yan
“How’s Valerie?” I asked Kevin her husband. “I haven’t seen her the past few weeks.”
“She’s a little discouraged. She wants to speak more but thinks our group is getting too large. She’s taking some time off for herself,” he replied.
How unfortunate. It’s not like her. She’s usually quite enthusiastic and upbeat. And she’s [...]
Today, I stumbled across two years old essay from Paul Graham about running a successful Startup. I especially liked the fifth chapter about the importance of commitment and determination, which is very relevant to self-improvement domain as well.
“But if you lack commitment, chances are it will have been hurting you long before you actually [...]
by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Carmen, a client of mine, told me at the end of one of her sessions, “I’m no longer willing to be a trash can for others’ negativity.”
“Wow!” I said. “I’m delighted to hear that! And I love that metaphor!”
Carmen is a lovely, warm, intelligent and compassionate young woman in her late 20’s. [...]